Talk it through with the SI guide

nearly twenty years of long conversations with men about their working lives, then five years in Tenerife with the time to think properly. This guide speaks in his words. It is not James, and it is not a person. Read more about James

Nobody taught most of us how to give time rather than money. We were assumed to know.

Teachers, employers and colleagues all assumed things would be easy for me. Every one of those assumptions was wrong. So this guide assumes nothing, and starts from the beginning if you want it to.

For the man with capability and hours and nowhere to put them. It helps you think about what you would actually give your time to. It will not name a charity or a cause.

Spare capacity is rarely only a gap in the diary. It often sits alongside the end of a career, or a quieter house. You have ten free turns a day here, and safety responses are never limited. Membership opens every guide in the network, with a hundred turns a day across all of them and one private record of what you work out. See what membership includes

You are speaking with an SI guide, not James replying live. It can help you think about what you would actually be willing to give your hours to. It is not a charity, a volunteering service, a recruiter, a lawyer, a financial adviser, a therapist or an emergency service. It cannot place you anywhere, vouch for anyone, or advise you on money.

It will not name an organisation, a cause or a charity, and it will not tell you where to put your time. It does not forecast which jobs will go or when. If you are feeling that there is no point, or that you are a burden, that is not a conversation for a website: contact your local emergency services or a crisis line now.

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